The Meaning of a True Friend
Lately I have noticed that friendships especially among young girls are not truly genuine. My daughter has been experiencing some things in this area and it made really think back on my life and other young girls that I know who have had problems in the friend area. It would seem that the value of a true friend has changed considerably. No longer do we have those friends who are meant for a lifetime but it seems that people have become seasonal for one reason or another. It seems so easy to drop one person without a valid excuse and pick up someone else without any regard to the other ones feelings. Society today has an “it is all about me, my wants, my needs” mindset and whatever with the feelings or needs of other people. It is not necessarily all young girls or women but it happens with men also but it seems that women have a hard time being friends. We are sensitive people by nature, which is not a bad thing because it is apart of the nurturing side of us to be sensitive. But I do think that when sensitivity becomes a barrier in a relationship then there is a problem. So many times when I ask “why are they mad” the answer is I do not know but when the injured person ask what happen there is never a clear answer or it is a misunderstanding that could have been rectified if only a civil conversation had been had. I do believe sensitivity and miscommunication has broken a lot of friendships over time.
So let’s look at what the Bible says about friends. There are several verses in the Bible that address friendship so this issue must be important for us to grasp.
FRIENDSHIP IS UNCONDITIONAL
Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity”
A true friend loves you no matter what. We may not always agree because we all have different opinions but ultimately the love that you have for someone will out weigh any disagreement. My best girlfriend and I have been friends for several years we love each other deeply but she does not always agree with me nor I her but the one thing that we do have is a respect for each others opinion. We know at the end of the day we love each other and will always be there for one another.
TRUE FRIENDS LOVE IS UNBREAKABLE
Ruth 1:16 But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.
One of the most beautiful stories of friendship is the story of Ruth and Naomi. Love brought them together but tragedy kept them together. The love that they had for one another was truly unbreakable, death or famine could not separate these two. Naomi could depend on Ruth no matter what. How many of us can say that we are RUTH OR NAOMI? Can you say that you will leave everything behind to be there for your friend? Can you be inconvenienced to help your friend? True friends are there for one another through the good and the bad it is unbreakable.
TRUE FRIENDS CAN BE TRUSTED
John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
I don’t know many people who will lay down there life for me that I could not trust. Let’s face it if your willing to go this far for me then you can be trusted. Friends are not disloyal but you can trust them with the good and the bad. Jesus was the ultimate friend to all of us. He sacrificed himself so that we could live. The principal thing in all of this is LOVE. Love drives you to be good to a person, love makes you trustworthy. Because you love someone you will not do anything to hurt that person but you will do everything to protect them. This is what Jesus did for us He protected us from sin when He died on the cross; He laid down His life for His FRIENDS!!!!!!
The truth that comes from all of this is a friendship is a relationship that is entered into by individuals, and it is only as good or as close as those individuals choose to make it. A friend is one whom you can be yourself with and never fear that he or she will judge you. A friend is someone that you can confide in with complete trust. A friend is someone you respect and that respects you, not based upon worthiness but based upon a likeness of mind.