Girl Chat Building Genuine Friendships


In this episode of Grace Moments I invited a few of my friends to my house for lunch and a discussion about genuine friendships.  So many times as women we find it hard to have real relationships with each other. I wanted to discuss why that is and how do we create lifelong friendships. We talked about the categories that we place people who come into our lives and we deal with hurts that hinder us from developing relationships.


Grace to start new


On this episode of Grace moments I interviewed my very good friend Rashanda Carmichael. I have know Rashanda for over 10 years. We met at work, she was the youngest in the office but also very mature for her age.  Through the years we have a developed a sisterhood a bond that I would not change.  Recently she started a new venture she started a youtube channel called Yana Mae’s Kitchen and also a cupcake line called Yana Mae’s Sweet.  In this episode we talk about Yana Mae’s, her work at the church and how she fell in love with cooking. We laugh a lot in this episode and talk about our faith in God.  I recorded this episode at our neighborhood Starbucks so there is some noise in the background {note to myself never record a podcast outside of a Starbucks}.  I hope you enjoy my talk with Rashanda. You can follow her on Facebook, subscribe to her youtube channel Yana Mae’s Kitchen.


Prime Real Estate

images-7   Hi guys!!! Sorry I missed you all last week. I was dealing with the third round of a cold that turned into a sinus infection. Let me tell you this has been a rough cold season. Thank God that I am feeling better and I am back on the grind. Last week while I was recovering I had a chance to catch up on some reading with my First5 community. For those who do not know First5 is an online community developed by Proverbs31 Ministries. It is a community of women who study the bible and are committed to giving God the first 5 minutes of the day. Okay I had gotten behind so while I was home doctoring myself I watched the last weekend wrap up. The lesson was “God is a covenant keeping God” ohhhh how I needed to hear that on last week.   She began to teach how God made a covenant with Abraham and was now fulfilling that promise in the book of Joshua. The one teaching said something that sparked my attention, she said that Israel received the inheritance but they had to drive out the enemy who still occupied the land but some did not. They allowed the enemy to stay, so ultimately they surrender part of the inheritance. I thought about what was said and it dawn on me how often do we give or surrender our inheritance to the devil? How many times have we given away what God has given? We surrender to the pressures of the world instead of ridding ourselves of the enemy. I believe that is time out for the believers living below the promises of God. We have to hold on tight to what the savior has given to us.



Sometimes if we are honest we do not truly understand what we have. Our minds have not fully connected to the fact that God has given us prime real estate. So we do not understand the value of what we possess if we did we would not give it away so easily. This month I am going do something a little different. February will be a series called “prime real estate.” As children of God we possess something far more valuable than money, cars, fancy clothes and idols. We have prime real estate that must be held onto. In this season we cannot afford to surrender what God has so graciously given to those whom believe. So I hope that you follow with me on this journey to understand what we truly possess. Once God reveals these truths my prayer is that we never surrender our inheritance ever again.


Always Love


Ephesians 1:3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved.

Exile for Purpose


Have you ever felt alone in the middle of a room full of a sea of people? The room is full to capacity with laughter and conversation. People are talking, catching up like old friends but no one is talking to you. You have a feeling of being out of place but yet you are called to be there.  There are times in my life where I have been alone but people were around me. I felt that the people did not understand me or even like me but yet this is place that I have been called to serve.  I have asked God how do I serve in a place when I feel so alone? How do you serve but yet you are in exile?  This was hard for me I battled with my feelings of rejection, sadness and aloneness but yet I was called to serve and still held accountable to uphold the assignment.     images-4

The Bible tells us that to be a disciple that we have to take up our cross and follow after Jesus. In no way shape or form did Jesus say that following him would be easy. In fact He said that we would be persecuted for His sake and that tribulations would come but the good things is that Jesus has overcome the world. Meaning that everything that we face Jesus has overcome it for us. Jesus was exiled for a purpose when he went to the garden to pray the disciples went with him but yet he was alone because they could not even stay awake long enough to pray with him never mind pray for him. The cross was exiled the disciples left him during the hardest fight of his life but yet he endured because of the assignment he was called to. At His point of pain and despair He still had to serve. My friend just because you are in a place of exile right now the assignment does not stop. No my friend you have to push forward, wipe away the tears from your eyes and do the work.

What I learned during this time was that God was dealing with me about me. I had some problems it was not the place of serving it was I. I had to deal with old hurts and not infer my pain on those whom I served. I had to mature and realize that I am the vessel in which God has chosen to use for this time but if I didn’t get myself together I would miss out on the joy of serving with an grateful heart.

Beloved know that your purpose will always outweigh the trials. If you are feeling alone, maybe God has you in this place to work on you. Or he wants you to be in a place where it is just you and He alone in a room so that you can hear clear directions. There are some things in life that we may loose but know that God will always provide what is best for us and what is applicable to fulfill purpose. Sometimes we think we are loosing but we are actually gaining something beautiful. My friend please be encouraged and know that God has graced you to handle the exile. The time of exile is perfecting, establishing and making you better in order to fulfill purpose.


Always Love,


Life Happens


What do you do when life happens, when the unexpected pain and disappointment comes knocking at your door? The pain has invaded your space like an unwelcomed guest. What do you do when you try to get rid of the pain of disappointment but the ache lingers? How does one cope when life deals you a bad hand? Do you play the hand that you are dealt or throw in the towel? These are the questions that people face everyday so what do you do when life happens to you?

Last year my dad was diagnosed with cancer again. The cancer that we thought was in remission came back and this time he had to have surgery to remove it. We were told it would be a long surgery and recovery would take time. Needless to say I was nervous for my dad and our family began to pray. The day of the surgery came; it took 10 hours for the doctor to complete the surgery. The surgeon was ready to speak with mom, he stated the surgery went well and that he had removed the cancer that was awesome news. We waited to see my dad with anxious hearts it would take some time to get him in a room. Finally he was ready and settled in a room, when I walked in I put on a bold face but my heart sunk in my stomach. My big strong daddy, the one I always counted on, the one that in my eyes was stronger than life was hooked to machines, with a trach in his throat, he couldn’t talk. I wanted to cry. I wanted to run away because I did not want to see my dad like that but this is when he needed me the most. My dad needed me to be strong so I walked outside the room to get myself together. My cousin let me cry for a moment but only a moment because at the time I had to make a decision was I going to wallow in self-pity or trust God to heal my daddy. I chose the latter.

You see life can be difficult but you have to make the choice to overcome and walk in victory. When hard times come I have to remember that God has been my constant guide. His truth has led me through life challenges. You see there will always be challenges; we just have to know whom to turn to during the trial. The mistake that people make is turning away from God instead of turning to him. He is the one who keeps us during the hard times and the good times. I had to learn that when I am overwhelmed by life I turn to the rock that is higher than me. I hide in the safety of his presence, because in His presence I find strength, direction, peace and answers for my situation.

My friends when life happens stay close to God. Allow the truth of God to guide your heart and lead you in what to do. Remember God will never leave you nor forsake you but He will hold you close in His arms and work everything out for your good. God has a good plan for your life. Beloved life happens to the best of us, how will you handle it? I pray you handle it with grace and the assurance that God loves you and live through it.


Always Love


p.s. My dad is doing very well. He has some rough days but all in all God has given him the grace to make it.

Make up Your Mind 

Inconsistent is the word that resonates in me when I think about certain parts of my life. Inconsistency has been my constant friend. Inconsistency has been apart of my life for a long time. For a time I thought it was okay to change my mind whenever the wind blew. Not committing to anything for a long period of time because I wanted to be free or I was bored with that particular subject so I stopped. It was probably about a year or so ago that I looked at my life and saw that Teresa you do not complete things. I am good at starting but very inconsistent about finishing. Y’all this is not a good character trait. You see I always find something that I like and I start strong but before you know it something else would catch my eye and you guessed it I would not finish the first thing that I started. People you talk about crazy. One day I came to myself and realized that this was not good for me. So I begin to ask God to help be consistent, to not find something else interesting before I finished what I originally started. I purposed in my heart and mind to finish one thing before I began another. I had to make up my mind to become consistent  

 Let me tell you if you are going to do anything in this life you have to make up your mind to change. Change begins when you make up in your mind that you want to change and then put effort behind the motivation to change. When you do something for so long it takes time to change bad habits. This is why Paul admonishes us in Romans to renew our minds. By renewing your mind you take what was old thinking and replace it with the truth. The truth is, it is not good for me to not finish things because it shows a lack of commitment and self-control. So I had to renew my mind to become committed to finish what I start.   
Beloved God has given you the grace to finish what you start. You do not have to settle for defeat. You just have to make up in your mind that you will do what God has purposed for you to do. Make up in your mind that you will honor God regardless of the circumstance. Do not settle for anything less than God’s very best for you. Remember you have been given the GRACE to prosper and push through whatever obstacle that comes your way. Make up your mind to change. 

Always Love